"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way - in short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil, in the superlative degree of comparison only.“
- 狄更斯,《双城记》的开篇。
第一本:Teach Your Children Well, by Madline Levine 虽然没有培养出名校毕业的孩子,但是她是旧金山湾区乃至全美国非常有名的心理学家之一。她执业三十多年,看过硅谷无数的高智商高收入高期望值家庭里面出来的青少年病人。我强烈推荐任何一个父母亲 - 哪怕你只在乎孩子是否考上哈佛 - 先看看这本书。 Madline 的文风很平实,笔调很直接,传递的信息也非常犀利。她也是著名的 Challenge Success (http://www.challengesuccess.org/) 非盈利亲子教育机构的三个创始人之一。这个作者,也是位母亲,更是个有社会公德和良心的教育者。
第二本:Mindset - the new psychology of success, how we can learn to fulfill our potential
by Carol Dweck 2006 年写的这本书,不夸张的说,已经影响了好几代人,包括我在内。是的,这本书不只是写给父母亲养育孩子看的,也是写给有中年危机的上班族,和任何觉得生活不过如此的无奈感叹者。这不是本 ”成功心灵鸡汤学“,而是一本有深度有启迪的书。
第三本:how to Raise an Adult
by Julie lythcott-haims
好吧,前两个作者都可能是局外人,这本书的作者,完完全全是名校体制内的: 她曾任斯坦福大学一年级主任 (Dean of Freshmen) 十年,负责所有和一年级新生有关的事情。她明明白白地告诉家长,我们应该做而没有做的,应该不做而拼命在做的,有哪些事情。